Dating a poly couple
People who are new to polyamory often want to know what the rules are.They want to feel secure that they are doing it "right." The truth?In Polyamory, which is defined as the state or practice of maintaining multiple sexual and/or romantic relationships simultaneously with the full knowledge and consent of all the people involved, the term Unicorn is used to describe a bisexual person (usually though not always female) who is willing to join an existing couple, often with the presumption that this person will date and become sexually involved with both members of that couple, and not demand anything or do anything which might cause problems or inconvenience to that couple. The couple is usually considered a primary relationship, while the girlfriend will be a secondary partner to both.
Some partners negotiate "veto rights," where partners agree not to date anyone their partner "vetoes." Other poly people don't appreciate these kinds of restrictions. Regardless of how you choose to manage your metamours, it's something to discuss with your partners well before the situation presents itself, when everyone is feeling secure, and there is no New Relationship Energy to contend with.This may sound obvious, but all of your partners have to be aware that they are dating someone polyamorous for the relationship to be polyamorous. Likewise, adding a partner to the mix is not likely to "spice up" your relationship if someone isn't getting their needs met. It takes a lot of communication, self-reflection, and emotional maturity to maintain romantic and sexual relationships with multiple partners.In polyamory, the person your partner is dating besides you is referred to as a "metamour," or the love of your love.It’s understood that if things don’t work out that she will willingly leave with no issues.
Though the dyad may choose to incorporate elements of the girlfriend’s life into the triad, it is not uncommon for the girlfriend to incorporate more of the dyad’s life into her own.The dyad, on the other hand, are allowed to date each other without the girlfriend.