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It is a truth universally acknowledged that a single, attractive, heterosexual woman over the age of 40 must be in need of a man.Or so Carrie Bradshaw would have you believe; and she is mostly right.Because of this shift in my thinking, I’m less concerned with finding someone who will be a good provider for us.As long as he can provide for himself I’m satisfied.So a man doesn’t have to be “well educated.” (Though I do prefer he have at least one degree.) Basically, all the things I considered important in my thirties don’t really factor in to my decisions anymore. owning and financial security don’t really play in to my decision any more.Is he happy and an honest/kind person, am I attracted to him, can he support himself. At our He Said/She Said event the other night, one man of 40 asked whether the fact he was 25K in debt as well as had a mortgage to pay was going to be a deal breaker for a woman.A person of 40 or 45 who has never married or settled in to something long-term probably chose that path for themselves, consciously or unconsciously.So it seems futile to expect that person to change for us. If they’re divorced, are they really eager to give that a go a second time?
We all have fulfilling careers, lots of good friends and interesting lives.
That, and not an actual relationship, seems to provide many people with comfort.